Top 5 Signs She is NOT the One

5. YOUR FRIENDS AREN’T FANS
Even if your friends have horrible taste in movies, music, or people they date, they’ll have a pretty good idea of whether or not she’s good for you. And if they don’t get along with her — or if she can’t stand them — you probably have some serious issues. You can probably sense how they feel about each other, but if you’re not sure, ask a few who’ll be relatively impartial. “Listen to what your friends have to say when you ask their opinion,” he says. “Just don’t let their analysis of your situation be your only basis for breaking it off.” In other words, it should just confirm what you already knew deep down.


4. YOU CAN’T DO NOTHING WITH HER
After the newness of the getting-to-know-you and getting-to-see-you-naked stage fades, the relationship will center on how well you two get along just sharing space and time together. And if doing nothing with her feels like you’re serving hard time, that’s, uh, not so great.

3. YOU FEEL GUILTY ALL THE TIME
Unless you’re truly an awful person, you shouldn’t feel like the bad guy all the time. So if you’re always made to feel like you’re doing something wrong, the real issue is probably either that the two of you are incompatible, or that she has some major issues of her own. Even when you’re made to feel lousy all the time, the thought of ending things can make you feel even more lousy, because she’s cast you as the bad guy. But that’s just going to breed resentment.

2. YOUR SEX LIFE IS LOUSY
It’s surprisingly easy to tell yourself that a less-than-enjoyable sex life is okay if everything else about your partner and relationship is great. After all, it’d be superficial and shallow to put so much emphasis on sex, right? Hell no. In fact, a recent study found that couples in secure and happy relationships have better sex lives than those in insecure, ambivalent, or detached relationships. In other words, a satisfying sex life is a key part of a good relationship.

1. SHE’S AMAZING — BUT YOU STILL CAN’T COMMIT
She’s smart, sexy, and doesn’t get mad when you go to grab a quick drink with your friends and accidentally road trip to Atlantic City on a three-day bender. What a gal! And yet even though you know she’s “perfect,” you can’t visualize yourself with her forever. It’s what psychotherapist Ken Page calls “the wave of distancing,” and it’s pretty common. “You’re with somebody who’s decent, kind, and available — and yet you get bored, judgmental, and annoyed,” he says. “So take a step back and let the wave pass.” Good advice — unless, of course, the “wave” lasts for six months. Then it’s probably not a wave, and either this relationship isn’t right, or you’re not ready for any relationship.

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“I Have Given Up On Dating” – Serena Williams

In a new online interview, tennis superstar Serena Williams says that after a lot of heartbreak (linked to Drake and Common) she no longer wishes to date – at least not now anyway.

“I have given up on dating,” the 27-time grand slam champion confessed, in an exclusive interview, at the Sleep Sheets launch. ”It just hasn’t worked out well for me.”

An emotional and candid Serena added, “I’m a really emotional person. I give my all and everything. I do make mistakes — like every human does — but the last relationship just was too much of a heartbreak for me. I just can’t go through that anymore. It was hard.”

9 Things Men Find Attractive About Women Other Than Looks

Men are visual creatures. There’s no doubt about that. But when it comes to the potential for commitment and anything more than sideways pokey, there are several things we find attractive about women that have nothing to do with looks.


Confidence

A universal winner, but it’s not just about what you say and do. It’s also about what you don’t do. Confident people don’t need to make themselves known for the sake of being seen and heard. They don’t need to proclaim it from center stage at Summer Jam. They don’t need to offer unsolicited criticism and judgments about what others are doing, what they’re wearing, and/or who they’re with. Confident people don’t snoop or question every opposite sex friend. Confident people embrace both their strengths and weaknesses. They’re concerned with controlling what’s in their power, not what’s outside of it. That’s sexy

Sense of Humor

Let’s be real, the type of men you find interesting probably aren’t walking the straight and narrow. They’re not just rocking suits, processing paper, and talking about their education and career accomplishments. They’re probably funny. They know how to make you laugh. And when they see you laughing, they feel good. They think you’re fun. Men love fun women. We also love funny women. We don’t love women who are serious all the time. Because when we see that, it more than likely means we won’t be able to be ourselves. Who wants to be with someone like that? That’s not attractive. It’s a repellent.



Passion

Passion isn’t only infectious, it’s sexy. Men love hearing women speak passionately about the things and people they love (unless it’s about the ex they haven’t gotten over) and their dreams. Passion inspires. And inspiration is one of the key things that drives us toward you, to support you, to love you, and to become better ourselves. What’s even sexier is seeing you not just speak about your passions, but to display it through your actions. Seeing you pursue your dreams with determination is a definitely win.


Generosity

I’m not just talking about volunteering once a month at the neighborhood soup kitchen. I’m talking about generosity when it comes to family, friends, and acquaintances. Someone who’s willing to help others without provocation knows that there’s more to life than their own. We will need that generosity and support to help keep us going when things are going well or not well at all. And someone’s that’s generous is rarely called selfish. Who likes a selfish bear?


Independently Dependent

Contrary to what some people may tell you, men love women that are independent. We love women that have their own careers, can manage their finances, and don’t need a man to feel secure. But we also love the vulnerability that comes with being dependent on someone when necessary. One of the sexiest but least discussed traits is the ability of someone to admit that they need help or to ask for it. You don’t have to do it all, all the time. Men find it attractive when women understand that.

Treatment of Children

As men settle into the stage of life where they’re looking forward to the next chapter with someone special, this becomes more important…which means it becomes a more attractive trait. Most men plan to have kids and we want them to have the best mother possible. So it only makes sense that we’d find a woman that’s good with kids attractive.


Intelligence

You’d think this goes without saying right? Well, unfortunately it doesn’t. Intelligence here doesn’t just mean having a high IQ. It means the ability to carry a conversation about more than gossip, reality tv, and mundane shenanigans. It means being plugged into what’s going on in the world. It means understanding business, politics, and current events. It means reading. Men love women that read more than just magazines (but that’s a start). You can put us onto stuff. You can challenge us. Men love challenges. You knew that though.


Spirituality

Spiritually doesn’t mean going to church every Sunday (or Saturday). What about the other six days of the week? Are you living your life in accordance with what you believe? If you are, that’s sexy. We can see it in your attitude and hear it in the way you speak. Someone who actively believes in something is better than someone who believes in nothing. We don’t even have to believe the exact same thing.

Innocence

Nobody wants to date the loaf of bread that’s been open for 2 weeks. Nah, I’m kidding. Kinda.

I don’t mean innocence in the pure white dress or naivete sorta way. I just mean you don’t come off as having seen and done it all. When we feel that there are things we can show you, it becomes attractive. We like to feel like we’re improving something, even if it’s just in our own minds. You have an active role in that.

There are plenty of other things men find attractive, but these are just nine. Fellas, what additions would you make to the list. Ladies, what things do you find attractive about men other than their cheekbone structure, edge up, and height?


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Are u Attractive and Wanna Travel 4 Free (DATING SITE)

A new dating website called www.misstravel.com promises to link wealthy well-traveled men with women who haven’t seen much yet but want to. Sounds like NBA All Star Weekend, but here’s how it works from the website:

Membership Types

Attractive Traveler: If you are a beautiful person who wants to travel for free, just signup as a “Attractive Traveler”. Attractive Travelers are adventurous and open minded people who loves to travel, but lacks the budget to do so. As such, you are looking to meet other Generous members who are willing to pay for you to travel, or gift you frequent flyer miles which may be redeemed for free flights on all major airlines. Remember, as a Attractive Traveler, you get to use our website 100% Free.

Generous Traveler: If you are a generous sponsor, signup as a “Generous Traveler”. Generous Travelers are generous members who are seeking to travel with a beautiful companion, and who is willing to pay for all travel expenses. Generous Travelers can use our website for free. Pay only when you decide to communicate with any Attractive Traveler.

Marriage Won’t Make You Happier

If you’re living with your significant other, don’t worry too much about tying the knot, because it won’t make you any happier, according to a new study. The study followed 2,737 single men and women for six years, watching as 896 of them either got married or moved in with a lover, Science Daily reports. The results? Both married couples and cohabitators exhibited higher levels of happiness and fewer depression symptoms than single people—but married couples didn’t have an advantage over those just cohabitating.

“While married couples experienced health gains—likely linked to the formal benefits of marriage such as shared health care plans—cohabiting couples experienced greater gains in happiness and self-esteem,” the study’s lead author said. “America continues to value marriage above other family forms. However, our research shows that marriage is by no means unique in promoting well-being.” Jezebel’s take-away? “Go ahead and live in sin! Science says it’s okay.” If you’re living with your significant other, don’t worry too much about tying the knot, because it won’t make you any happier, according to a new study.

John Legend Engaged 2 Chrissy Teigen

Over the past four years, John Legend and his model girlfriend Chrissy Teigen have been spotted at events and red carpets across the country, and over the holidays Legend made the union official by proposing to Teigen. The couple confirmed the news in a statement to People. "John Legend and his girlfriend, model Chrissy Teigen, got engaged over the holidays while vacationing in the Maldives," a rep confirmed.

People reports that while little else is known about how they celebrated the good news, Legend will be in Las Vegas this weekend performing at the Pearl at the Palms on New Year's Eve.

"We validate or shut down whatever each of us is doing," Legend told People in May about how the pair help style one another. "[It's] all of the time. We were together when we picked out our clothes today. She's better [at it]. It's harder to dress a woman — there are so many options and accessories. For guys we only have so many elements."

The couple began dating in 2007. Teigen is best known for her work as a Sports Illustrated swimsuit model. It's a big week for Legend, who will also celebrate his birthday Wednesday.
The 32-year-old performer is current recording material for his upcoming fifth studio album.

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6 Ingredients To Lasting Relationships

Throughout your life you will develop hundreds of relationships, from the important ones, to the ones that won’t quite matter as much. The very first relationships in our lives are the most important ones, because from there we learn to trust and receive love. Some of people had parents or guardians that were affectionate and taught them morals, values and principles that make us the adults who we are today. But since everyone doesn’t have the same foundation, many adults have short-comings and do not understand how relationships should work.

We normally are not unaware that our actions and thoughts are a reflection of our views about relationships in general. Eventually the vicious cycle of the behavior has been broken down here are some proper ingredients to healthy relationships.

6 keys to a good relationship:

1. Friendship

2. Respect

3. Honesty

4. Trust

5. Understanding

6. Communication


As adults, we can no longer blame our upbringing or past on why we are the way we are, or why we only relate to certain types of people and situations. We are all capable of having long-lasting, meaningful relationships while we are on this journey called life.



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Men Value Cuddling, Women Value Sex, Says New Reseach On Relationship Satisfaction

There's a long-standing myth that men don't like to cuddle, but that's just not true according to a new study on what makes men and women happy in relationships.

Researchers from the Kinsey Institute in Bloomington, Ind. surveyed 1,009 heterosexual middle-aged and older couples in long-term relationships from five different countries, and found some surprising results, reports TIME.

Men who reported frequently kissing or cuddling with their partners were on average three times as happy with their relationships as men who reported limited interaction. Perhaps more surprising, the study found it was sexual satisfaction that was more important to women in long-term relationships. And it also found that for women, sex got better over time -- they reported significantly more sexual satisfaction after being with their partner for 15 years.

"This study makes it clear our assumptions aren't always borne out by research," Jennifer Bass, director of communications at The Kinsey Institute told ABC News.

Psychologists who were not involved in the research were intrigued by the study's findings that men need touch and affection to be happy in relationships.

Aline Zoldbrod, a psychologist in Lexington, Mass., told ABC News that touch in general is very important and, "touch from a person you love and trust is a major emotional resource and a way that people can regulate their emotions when they are upset. Couples who use touch to comfort, to compliment, and yes, to seduce and arouse, are bound to be happier."

In a press release, the study's lead author and Director of the Kinsey Institute for Research In Sex, Gender and Reproduction, Julia Heinman noted that while we constantly hear about studies on divorce, research on lasting relationships is also important. We already know from other research that being happy in a long-term relationship has some health benefit. "Perhaps we can learn more about what makes relationships both sustainable and happy," she said.
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Women in long-term relationships may become more satisfied over time because expectations change once the children are grown, said Heinman. And "those who weren't so happy sexually might not be married so long."

The study also found that both Japanese men and women were significantly happier in their relationships than Americans, but Brazilians and the Spanish were less happy than American couples. This makes sense considering that, according to Heinman, while more than 50 percent of couples in the U.S. don't stay in their first marriage, that number increases to about 90 percent in Spain.


This study is important, co-author Michael Sand, a clinical sexologist at Boehringer-Ingelheim Pharmaceuticals, told MSNBC, because it shows that people can be in long-term relationships and still enjoy "healthy, vibrant sexuality."

5 Quick Fixes Every Relationship Needs

Have you and your partner been together for ages — or are you still sailing along in the honeymoon phase? No matter how long you’ve been a twosome, it’s always smart to take a step back from your relationship to give it a tune-up.

In fact, all relationships need TLC. Without it, partners get lazy and the spark dies out, says Irina Firstein, LCSW, a New York City relationship counselor who has doled out relationship advice to couples for over 20 years.

Her best advice? "Try to remember what attracted you to your partner in the beginning of your relationship. Feel it again and keep it fresh in your mind."

Here, Firstein offers five no-fail tips for recharging your relationship.

Try a Little Tenderness

Here’s a rule of thumb that seems like a no-brainer, but often gets forgotten in the rush of daily life: Be nice to each other! It’s all too easy to take your partner for granted and get wrapped up in kids and work, says Firstein. Instead, try this: Take a moment every day to pay your partner a compliment. "Go out of your way to make your partner feel special and important," she says.

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One piece of relationship advice all experts agree on? Communication is key. When was the last time you went out of your way to have a real conversation with your partner — one that you didn't rush through? "Have a genuine interest in every aspect of your mate's life the way you did when you first met and started dating,” says Firstein. “Ask questions and really listen to what they have to say. Be interested in how they feel and what they think."

Add Oomph to Your ‘Thank You’

Do you remember the last time you told your honey how much you appreciate him? A healthy relationship is a blessing, so say thanks with both words and with deeds. If your wife usually gets home from work late, surprise her one night with a homemade, late-night meal. If your husband is usually in charge of yard duty, give him the day off and get out there with the mower yourself.

Abandon Your Comfort Zone

You don’t have to splurge on the expensive or the exotic — any change of pace can be good for a relationship that has gotten into a rut. "If you are in a routine as a couple, just do something totally new and different. Trying new things always sparks something unexpected," says Firstein. It could be as simple as going to a new restaurant or going to a concert instead of watching a movie on your own sofa. Instead of eating breakfast with the kids, have breakfast in bed. Instead of watching the news, go for an evening walk.

And Don’t Forget to Have Sex Tonight!

Remember: Romance is one of the most important parts of intimacy. Look for unexpected ways to show your sexual interest. "Try acting like you can't keep your hands off each other," suggests Firstein. Plan a special breakfast in bed or take a shower together. And if you are a couple with kids, it is crucial to have some private time. "Why not get away for a weekend together, even if it is just at a hotel down the street?" says Firstein.

Can you remember why you fell in love in the first place? Then you’re off to a great start

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