Men are visual creatures. There’s no doubt about that. But when it comes to the potential for commitment and anything more than sideways pokey, there are several things we find attractive about women that have nothing to do with looks.
Confidence
A universal winner, but it’s not just about what you say and do. It’s also about what you don’t do. Confident people don’t need to make themselves known for the sake of being seen and heard. They don’t need to proclaim it from center stage at Summer Jam. They don’t need to offer unsolicited criticism and judgments about what others are doing, what they’re wearing, and/or who they’re with. Confident people don’t snoop or question every opposite sex friend. Confident people embrace both their strengths and weaknesses. They’re concerned with controlling what’s in their power, not what’s outside of it. That’s sexy
Sense of Humor
Let’s be real, the type of men you find interesting probably aren’t walking the straight and narrow. They’re not just rocking suits, processing paper, and talking about their education and career accomplishments. They’re probably funny. They know how to make you laugh. And when they see you laughing, they feel good. They think you’re fun. Men love fun women. We also love funny women. We don’t love women who are serious all the time. Because when we see that, it more than likely means we won’t be able to be ourselves. Who wants to be with someone like that? That’s not attractive. It’s a repellent.
Passion
Passion isn’t only infectious, it’s sexy. Men love hearing women speak passionately about the things and people they love (unless it’s about the ex they haven’t gotten over) and their dreams. Passion inspires. And inspiration is one of the key things that drives us toward you, to support you, to love you, and to become better ourselves. What’s even sexier is seeing you not just speak about your passions, but to display it through your actions. Seeing you pursue your dreams with determination is a definitely win.
Generosity
I’m not just talking about volunteering once a month at the neighborhood soup kitchen. I’m talking about generosity when it comes to family, friends, and acquaintances. Someone who’s willing to help others without provocation knows that there’s more to life than their own. We will need that generosity and support to help keep us going when things are going well or not well at all. And someone’s that’s generous is rarely called selfish. Who likes a selfish bear?
Independently Dependent
Contrary to what some people may tell you, men love women that are independent. We love women that have their own careers, can manage their finances, and don’t need a man to feel secure. But we also love the vulnerability that comes with being dependent on someone when necessary. One of the sexiest but least discussed traits is the ability of someone to admit that they need help or to ask for it. You don’t have to do it all, all the time. Men find it attractive when women understand that.
Treatment of Children
As men settle into the stage of life where they’re looking forward to the next chapter with someone special, this becomes more important…which means it becomes a more attractive trait. Most men plan to have kids and we want them to have the best mother possible. So it only makes sense that we’d find a woman that’s good with kids attractive.
Intelligence
You’d think this goes without saying right? Well, unfortunately it doesn’t. Intelligence here doesn’t just mean having a high IQ. It means the ability to carry a conversation about more than gossip, reality tv, and mundane shenanigans. It means being plugged into what’s going on in the world. It means understanding business, politics, and current events. It means reading. Men love women that read more than just magazines (but that’s a start). You can put us onto stuff. You can challenge us. Men love challenges. You knew that though.
Spirituality
Spiritually doesn’t mean going to church every Sunday (or Saturday). What about the other six days of the week? Are you living your life in accordance with what you believe? If you are, that’s sexy. We can see it in your attitude and hear it in the way you speak. Someone who actively believes in something is better than someone who believes in nothing. We don’t even have to believe the exact same thing.
Innocence
Nobody wants to date the loaf of bread that’s been open for 2 weeks. Nah, I’m kidding. Kinda.
I don’t mean innocence in the pure white dress or naivete sorta way. I just mean you don’t come off as having seen and done it all. When we feel that there are things we can show you, it becomes attractive. We like to feel like we’re improving something, even if it’s just in our own minds. You have an active role in that.
There are plenty of other things men find attractive, but these are just nine. Fellas, what additions would you make to the list. Ladies, what things do you find attractive about men other than their cheekbone structure, edge up, and height?
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